I Need An Angel Too...

It takes time to realize...
Or should I say, finally take it serious into what one have realized all these while.
It took me quite some years.
And I am still learning to put them into action....

I need an angel.
To keep me strong from doing what I should be doing.
And continue to believe that I can make it.

Was being addressed as an angel for twice within one week time..
For sharing what I have realized based on my past experience..
Glad that they addressed me as an angel and not a busybody.

I need an angel too.
Anyone?

Dream & Happiness

Life has been harsh.
But that's the best part of living.
Now I feel like a human. With flesh and blood.
Have been living the life of a robot for quite some time.
Happiness comes with pain.
I rather have it both, then to live without emotions.
Am I truly happy?
What a question.
I do not have an answer.
I have a dream in my heart.
Or should I say I have some dreams.
Each of them leads to a different path.
But they could have a cross point at some time.
What I am very sure of, is that I have to be responsible for my own happiness.
This is the starting step to any of my dreams.
:)

武林秘籍

前一阵子，有人对我说，他好像想通了很多人与人之间相处的道理，但却不懂怎么说出来，也不懂怎么运用。他形容就好像得到了一本武林秘籍，却不知从何练起。

这一个假期，很多感想在脑里转。当我想抓住一些实质的念头时，抓住的只有一些模糊的影子。不完整。

突发奇想。古今中外，很多练成高深武功的武林高手，都是心思简单无杂念的开心人。

就让我当一次郭靖吧！

高傲猫

当狗爱上猫。里头形容的高傲猫。。。让我想了很多。。。

一直以来，总觉得情人之间，不该还耍心计。两个人相处，就该舒服、自然、做自己。可是，人性有时真的就是那么贱。越难明白，越捉摸不定的人、事、物，越有吸引力。暧昧，总比肯定让人心跳加速。

扮高傲、装冷淡、摆酷。我很想说我不屑这样做，可惜实情是我实在没天份。性急、按耐不住。常常很想把自己隐藏，不过下一秒就毛躁躁地出卖了自己。

不过，想正面一些，所谓的高傲猫，该揣摩的，应该是那一份自信。不会在两个人的世界迷失了自我。寻找自我，培养自己的兴趣。空间，除了是喘息的空间，也是发展的空间！

I Need to Plan

Always fit in the bigger piece..Then only squeeze in the smaller one...If life is filled with small matters, there would be no more space for the bigger piece...

Yup...Not a new theory....And I couldn't agree more...

However, seems like there are some difficulties in executing...

Especially when it comes to work...Well, planning....What I am very lack of..A good planning.....Always miss out the big one after being interupted by countless small matters whole day long. A full list of things to do...And the progress is disappointing....

If I am able to plan out well for my work, I believe I can do the same for my life.

Let's check out the results one month later..

Gambatte. :)

浪漫的道歉

婚後,妻子還是和談戀愛時一樣,霸道蠻橫不講理。

這天夫婦倆本是說好一起去會朋友的,
可走到半路妻子又不講理地喝斥起老公來,老公平時都是言聽計從的,可這次不知怎麼,
竟來了牛脾氣,一扭頭,他回家不去了,
頭一次把妻子丟在馬路上,妻子當時氣得眼淚都快流出來了,但不能認輸,她只有賭氣地單刀赴會了。

晚上十一點鐘妻子回家,見房裏燈都關了,
心想老公是睡著了,便沒有按鈴,掏鑰匙開門時,
發現門上貼著紙條,上寫: 你必須向我道歉!

妻子憤憤地想,我還沒有找你算帳呢!

進屋後開燈關門,發現門後又貼著一紙條,
上寫:或者把我皮鞋擦亮也行。
妻子罵道,呸!我給你擦個屁。

換鞋時發現,她的拖鞋上又有一個紙條,
上寫:呸,擦個屁!
妻子感到好笑,她心想,要我道歉,我都要一個星期不理你了,你心裏有數點好不好。

妻子去洗漱,口杯上又有一個紙條,
上寫:如果你不知道該怎樣向我道歉的話,書桌上有提示。

妻子急忙跑到書桌旁,只見桌上放著半頁紙,
正面寫著:把背面的話對我大聲念兩遍就行了。
翻到背面,見上面貼著一張報紙上撕下來的廣告,
廣告詞是這樣寫的:
做女人,每個月都幾天心煩的日子 ......

妻子又想笑,他以為是我'好事'來了,心煩才對他發脾氣的？
幹嘛不說我更年期到了,那樣豈不是更好下臺階,可笑。
妻子的氣消了一多半。

洗漱完後,妻子上床,見老公扭頭在一邊睡著了,
她也不理他,打開床頭燈想看幾頁書再睡,
這是她多年來的習慣。打開書,裏面又有一個紙條,

上寫:我知道你心裏已經很難過了,你覺得對不住我,
有點難過了就行,也不必自責了。其實我也該檢討,
要不是我發現馬路對面表哥他們正想看我的笑話,
我是不會跟你作對的,男人嘛,除了在外人面前要點面子外,
誰會沒事跟自己老婆過不去呀。

妻子心裏一陣發熱,覺得自己是有點過分了,對不住老公,
便雙手抱著他的頭,扳過臉來,
卻發現老公臉頰上還寫著兩個大字:

親我
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人与人相处，本该如此，不是吗？
这和上一篇有点类似。爱、怨。。一念间。
结局，决定于处理的态度。
男女都一样。
当然，这么的一个男人，加分是肯定的 ：）

爱、怨。。。一念之间

恋爱的感觉, 总是在一开始觉得很甜蜜, 总觉得多一个人陪、多一个人帮你分担, 你终於不再孤单了,至少有一个人想著你、恋著你, 不论做什么事情, 只要能一起, 就是好的。但是慢慢的, 随著彼此的认识愈深, 你开始发现了对方的缺点，於是问题一个接著一个发生。 你开始烦、累,甚至想要逃避, 有人说爱情就像在捡石头, 总想捡到一个适合自己的。但是你又如何知道什么时候能够捡到呢？她适合你,那你又适合她吗? 其实,爱情就像磨石子一样, 或许刚捡到的时候,你不是那么的满意, 但是记住人是有弹性的, 很多事情是可以改变的， 只要你有心、有勇气。 与其到处去捡未知的石头, 还不如好好的将自己已经拥有的石头磨亮,你开始磨了吗？很多人以为是因为感情淡了, 所以人才会变得懒惰。错! 其实是人先被惰性征服, 所以感情才会变淡的。

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是成长的过程吗？

很多很多年以前，我的观念是：不要强迫对方为自己改变，也不要勉强自己改变。原则上，我相当抗拒为别人改变自己。后来，思想上我改变了。不再抗拒为另一个人而改变，不知不觉中，也改变了许多。某方面变好了，却也在某方面变坏了。任由惰性征服，是最坏的改变。心、勇气、毅力，被惰性吞没了。自己懒得改变的同时，却期待着对方的改变。现在的我，正努力征服惰性，难免还是有为别人改变的成份在内，不过，为自己改变，才是最根本的改变。

与其烦恼如何磨亮手上的石头，不如磨亮自己，让手上的石头情不自禁把自己也磨亮，一起成长，不是更好吗？

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在某个聚餐的场合, 有人提议多吃点虾子对身体好, 这时候有个中年男人忽然说「十年前,当我老婆 还是我的女朋友的时候,她说要吃十只虾,我就剥二十只给她! 现在,如果她要我帮她剥虾壳,开玩笑!我连帮她脱衣服都没兴趣了,还剥虾壳咧!

听到了吗？明白了吗？难怪越来越多人只想要谈一辈子的恋爱,却迟迟不肯走入婚姻。

因为,婚姻容易让人变得懒惰。

如果每个人都
懒得讲话、
懒得倾听、
懒得制造惊喜、
懒得温柔体贴,
那么夫妻或是情人之间,
又怎么会不渐行渐远渐无声呢？

所以请记住: 有活力的爱情, 是需要适度殷勤灌溉的, 谈恋爱,更是不可以偷懒的喔!

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又是惰性造的祸，罪过罪过。

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有一对情侣,相约下班後去用餐、逛街,可是女孩因为公司会议而延误了, 当她冒著雨赶到的时候已经迟到了30多分钟, 他的男朋友很不高兴的说: 你每次都这样,现在我甚么心情也没了, 我以後再也不会等你了! 刹那间,女孩终於决堤崩溃了, 她心里在想:或许,他们再也没有未来了

同样的在同一个地点,另一对情侣也面临同样的处境; 女孩赶到的时候也迟到了半个钟头,他的男朋友说:我想你一定忙坏了吧! 接著他为女孩拭去脸上的雨水,并且脱去外套盖在女孩身上, 此刻,女孩流泪了, 但是流过她脸颊的泪却是温馨的。

你体会到了吗？其实爱、恨往往只是在我们的一念之间! 爱不仅要懂得宽容更要及时, 很多事可能只是在於你心境的转变罢了! 懂了吗？

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懂了不足够，要付诸于行动！
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当有个人爱上你,而你也觉得他不错。 那并不代表你会选择他。
我们总说:我要找一个你很爱很爱的人,才会谈恋爱。
但是当对方问你,怎样才算是很爱很爱的时候,
你可能无法回答他,因为你自己也不知道。
没错,我们总是以为,我们会找到一个自己很爱很爱的人。
可是後来,当我们猛然回首,我们才会发觉自己曾经多么天真。
假如从来没有开始,你怎么知道自己会不会很爱很爱那个人呢？
其实,很爱很爱的感觉,是要在一起经历了许多事情之後才会发现的。
或许每个人都希望能够找到自己心目中百分之百的伴侣,
但是你有没有想过在你身边会不会早已经有人默默对你付出很久了,只是你没发觉而已呢？
所以,还是仔细看看身边的人吧!
他或许已经等你很久喽!

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什么是很爱很爱的感觉？我也曾困扰。

决定在一起，就义无反顾地用心去爱。爱，自然茁壮。

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当你爱一个人的时候,爱到八分绝对刚刚好。
所有的期待和希望都只有七八分;剩下两三分用来爱自己。
如果你还继续爱得更多,很可能会给对方沉重的压力,让彼此喘不过气来, 完全丧失了爱情的乐趣。
所以请记住,
喝酒不要超过六分醉,
吃饭不要超过七分饱,
爱一个人不要超过八分。

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刚刚好的那一个点，高深莫测。

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爱一个人,要了解,也要开解;
要道歉,也要道谢;
要认错,也要改错;
要体贴,也要体谅;
是接受,而不是忍受;
是宽容,而不是纵容;
是支持,而不是支配;
是慰问,而不是质问;
是倾诉,而不是控诉;
是难忘,而不是遗忘;
是彼此交流,而不是凡事交代;
是为对方默默祈求,
而不是向对方诸多要求;
可以浪漫,但不要浪费;
可以随时牵手,但不要随便分手。

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接收、宽容、支持、慰问、倾诉、难忘、交流、祈求。。。牵手。。。

忍受、纵容、支配、质问、控诉、遗忘、交待、要求。。。分手。。。

爱、怨。。。一念之间

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美丽的女孩

怎样的女孩最美丽？善良，开朗，活得充实，有目标，有自信的女孩。。最美丽。身为女生，我也不禁要被这些女孩吸引，为她们喝彩。用悲伤一层层包围着自己的女孩，只能说，可悲啊！要说是因为她们身上发出的能量让她们过的快乐自得，还是因为过得快乐自得所以身上发光，本来，所有的一切，都是息息相关的，不是吗？

Having companion over the week

Having companion over the week is good.
My soul is lonely inside.

When I am not alone, I realised that I still have much to work on.I mean my attitude.

I love my sis. No doubt. But I still feel suffocated and lost patient dealing with another person in a space I used to have it all to myself. Unconsciously raised my tone...Gosh...

Still a lot more to do before I can be the person I hope I can be.

Sis, visit me more ok? Let me practice :p
Play the role of the innocent lamb..
Until the fierce Bulldog turn into a tame Chihuahua..



:)

Good habits and bad habits

One said: 21 days of doing a same thing will make it a habit.
I have started some bad habits for more than 21 days.
And is starting some good habits few days ago.
It all comes from the heart.
How much you want it to be.
Discipline. Is the only key to any dreams...

I Have Learned...Have I?

不同的时间，阅读同一篇文章，每一次都让我有不同的感受。 这是一篇2006年7月我收在信箱的一篇文章。我依然清楚，为什么这篇文章让我在当时有所感触。2008年8月重看，感触依然深，只不过出发点完全逆转了。两年后的我，重新把它再看一遍，又会是什么样的心情呢？

First Piano Lesson...

Shall indulge myself in some happier emotions...

So here it is...My first piano lesson....

Feel as though I'm a kid again...Because the teacher is using all those colourful theory books..with cartoon characters all over the book. And as a mother herself, plus all the students she is having, I believe she has been dealing with too many small kids. The way she talks to me, not the attitude but more to the tone, I feel as if I am being treated as a kid as well. Everytime after I finish a simple line, she would say: Good, very gooooood....Haha...

Find it very difficult to look at notes. This is where everybody finds it hard to start with.

Looking forward towards the day I can play elegantly on the piano :)

EASY ....... DIFFICULT

Easy is to get a place is someone ' s address book.
Difficult is to get a place in someone ' s heart.

Easy is to judge the mistakes of others
Difficult is to recognize our own mistakes

Easy is to talk without thinking
Difficult is to refrain the tongue

Easy is to hurt someone who loves us.
Difficult is to heal the wound...

Easy is to forgive others
Difficult is to ask for forgiveness

Easy is to set rules.
Difficult is to follow them...

Easy is to dream every night.
Difficult is to fight for a dream...

Easy is to show victory.
Difficult is to assume defeat with dignity...

Easy is to admire a full moon.
Difficult to see the other side...

Easy is to stumble with a stone.
Difficult is to get up...

Easy is to enjoy life every day.
Difficult to give its real value...

Easy is to promise something to someone.
Difficult is to fulfill that promise...

Easy is to say we love.
Difficult is to show it every day...

Easy is to criticize others.
Difficult is to improve oneself...

Easy is to make mistakes.
Difficult is to learn from them...

Easy is to weep for a lost love.
Difficult is to take care of it so not to lose it.

Easy is to think about improving.
Difficult is to stop thinking it and put it into action...

Easy is to think bad of others
Difficult is to give them the benefit of the doubt...

Easy is to receive
Difficult is to give

Easy to read this
Difficult to follow

Easy is keep the friendship with words
Difficult is to keep it with meanings.

A good start? With an open heart..

On my way from home to work today, traffic lights were green all the way.

And I wasn't late to work today.

That makes my day a good day.

I have been over negative and self-enclosed all these while. With a closed mind, I shoulder passed all the people, scenery, love, care and blessing around me.

Learning to care and listen to voices around.

A good start?

I believe frequent practise will somehow turn it into part of me.

Day7

An article from my colleague. I'll try.

最近認識一位美國籍的出家師父,是個很有趣的事情。
特別是他叫我舉起蕃茄汁跟他說話的經驗。

我們約在新竹的一家茶館用英文談論著心經,師父用英文跟我解釋因果、輪迴這些事情, 這都還不稀奇。有趣的事情在後頭呢!

師父一聽完我跟他提到的個人煩惱的時候,他索性要我左手提起他剛買的三罐番茄汁, 一邊提著,一邊跟他說話。可想而知,我左手感覺到疲勞的程度,跟時間成了正比。
也懊惱著為何師父要我一邊提著三罐蕃茄汁,一邊跟他說話。

受不了這樣的酸楚,我自行把左手放下,卻聽到師父跟我說:「Hold it up, and keep talking to me. 」
聽到這樣的話,心理不免起了疑心,我手提的那麼酸,為何不讓我放下手上的重物,輕鬆地與他對談？

約莫過了15分鐘,我的左手實在承受不住了,才聽見師父跟我說:「Now you can put it down. 」。
看著我狐疑的臉,師父居然笑了出來。

「你不喜歡提著重物跟我說話,為何你卻喜歡帶著煩惱來跟我說話,過著你的生活呢？
手酸了,放下就好,對待煩惱,不也是這樣？
或是這些煩惱就像是那些番茄汁一樣,是你自己用手把它們給舉起來的呢？」

有趣的經驗,對吧？

最近我開始這樣的練習,一手舉起有重量的東西,一邊想著事情。
手酸了,自然會放下手上的東西, 看看有一天,我會不會也學到,心累了,就把心事給放下來。

我們能很容易的放下有形的重物,卻很難放下無形的重擔。

執著的人生會讓自己承擔莫需有的重擔。
所以學習放下執著也就在學習人生自在。

Day6

想通了。。找到再努力的自信了。。言出必行。。该把梦找回来！再会了，宝贝。是时候从保护区中迈向梦想。。